Tuesday, 16 February 2016.
Still Day 58
The Canadian and Anna sit at a café in Ruoholahti and try to chat. She is good with words and can talk to just about anybody about a thousand things, but somehow it feels these two have nothing to say to each other.
Real awkward silences fill their uh-awkward attempts.
They sip their tea and look around.
Uh… he looked a little chubbier in his pictures and where has his lovely beard disappeared to? Hmm.
This thin man’s face is clean-shaved. Are they even one and the same guy? Haha.
He tells her his daughter and his motorbike live in England. Uh… He himself owns a business in Hakaniemi. Uh… Would she like to ride his motorbike back from England with him.
Uh… Not sure! Well, at least we wouldn’t have to chat.
Uh… would she like to go to the movies with him after his England trip?
“Uh… Maybe, let’s see.”
Even looking at each other feels oddly awkward. Uh… Maybe Anna’s just sleepy and not feeling like her normal self today. She’s too much inside her mind, too little in her heart?
He seems like a perfectly nice guy – minus the sparks. Where are the sparks? Where are the sparks?
Finnair-flying here from Germany soon?
Ding! Fingers crossed, fingers crossed.
After she thanks him and leaves, she sits in her car in Citymarket’s parking lot and thinks about everything.
Ah, it’s kind of cool to go on all these dates. (I don’t know where people get the idea that Tinder is promiscuous. Well, I guess it depends on how one uses it)… Meeting new people and finding out who’s out there…
People are curiously fascinating. Ha! It’s like conducting my own field work in social studies/divorce-and-back-to-dating-near-your-forties research.
Well, as long as there’s respect and honesty, no waste of time.
#12 was a waste!
She reads Christian’s messages and then calls her mom.
18:33 Hello! Been in bed all day. 😊 Just got up. Feeling a bit better, thankfully! Plenty of water, hot drinks and paracetamol for me tonight. Hope you had a nice day.
Thanks for the pictures. I love Helsinki. It’s the perfect-sized city – you can walk everywhere. Never seen that cottage though. Love nature. Especially covered in snow! 😊
18:43 😊😊 Calling my mom now. Maybe I’ll talk to you later?
“So… how have this week’s dates been going?” Riittaa inquires happily even before saying hello.
Come to think of it, mom hardly ever says hello – jumping right into the matter at hand.
“Oh, mom. So interesting! Blah, blah, blah…
“…But I can’t help but feel quite excited with the Englishman I’m going to meet on Sunday. He seems to be well-mannered and smart. But not in a boring way… Blah, Blah….
“You know, today I told him I don’t know if I’m ready for dating yet. And he had such a respectful, mature response. Blah, blah…
“He’s always like that. Blah, blah, haha.”
“Yeah, I have a good feeling about this Englishman, too.” — Riitta is a woman of straight-to-the-point-just-the-necessary amount of words.
Quite a character – I just love her – funny and devoted and 100% her sui-generis self.
“Though he sent a horrible selfie today! Haha. But I don’t care. All the men I’ve met so far have turned out to be quite different in person, anyway.”
10 years older, 10 kg heavier, 10kg thinner, no beard, no smiles, no normal eye-to-eye contact, nicer clothes, shorter, you name it.
“I’m starting to think this gender is just not into their looks – to them, the world of selfies is from another universe – at least the men from my generation.”
“Yeah, meet him in person and then you’ll see.” — mama agrees.
21:01 Hello. Cough cough splutter. 😊 Hope you are keeping healthy. Maybe I should have been a teacher and eaten lots of apples?? I went back to bed. This is my first cold in ages. Hopefully a long sleep and I’ll be back to normal.
Hope you had a nice call with your mum. Does she live nearby? Wish I had the energy to write act III of that story we started. The cottage gave me some good ideas.
And your nice pictures. 😊
21:21 Hi, yes. I had a great chat with mom. She lives in Tampere, about 180km from here. Comes to Helsinki once a month. Dad, less often.
So sorry you’re feeling worse. 🤒🤧 Just stay in bed from now till Sunday morning and you should feel better. 😊
Unless you need antibiotics. Sometimes it’s good to check that it’s not angina, right? Look into your throat and see if there are any white spots around. If there are, you’re only getting better on meds.
21:27 Happy you liked Helsinki! And it’s not even my favorite city in Finland… Tampere, Oulu and Jyväskylä are better in some ways.
21:31 I hope you’re sleeping to recover. And if you do recover enough to come to Helsinki…
…we can just play a game at my place – do something non-tiring. Maybe I’ll let you lie under a cover to watch a movie and just take it easy. Let’s see.
21:36 Ahhh, that’s very kind. I am very much looking forward to seeing you on Sunday. I’m sure I’ll be fit and well by then. 😊 Movie, games. Sounds like a good day! Nice and relaxing.
© 2017 rf
Obs. All names have been changed, and chat messages were published with the match’s kind permission.
Obs. End of Day 58 feeling curious and reassured.