Chapter 48 – Garlic, Lemon, Ginger and Honey

 

Saturday, 13 February 2016.

 

Day 55

 

7:15   Morning! Saturday, yay!
So describe the male emotions for me!
And… have you been able to enjoy the company of your son this week?  😊

 

Anna sends Christian a picture.

galera

 

10:05   Morning! Was fast asleep. Think I may be getting ill. 🤒
Yes. I see my son a lot. He’s a clever thing. So cute too. 😊
Nice drawings. Did you do these all last night?

Think I have a cold.

10:08   Of course not. I draw better than that. 😊 Those were from an activity from the youth evening yesterday.

Everybody gets an empty card with somebody else’s name for 30 seconds. And you have to write or draw something nice about the person. The activity is called “What I Love about You”.

What a great idea!

Did you see the hooks they drew for mine?

Haha. Yes! It did catch my eye!! 😊

10.11   So sorry you’re catching a cold!!
Buy BEROCCA from the pharmacy and take two per day. I bet you won’t get as sick as you would otherwise.
Garlic, lemon, ginger and honey. Those should help as well.
Take care of yourself there! 😊

11.04   Thanks. Yes. Berocca is good. I will dose up. Just getting ready to take Geoff to soft play. Speak a bit later. What will you be up to? Have a great day! xx

11.08  Oh, I’m just going out for a jog. What is soft play? Sounds like fun.

Thanks! You enjoy your day, too! X

 

Anna sends him a picture of the neighborhood under construction.

 

11.19   Looks nice out there. More choice. And more saunas. 😊 Sunglasses weather? Run like the wind!!

11:46   Just 2.8km in 20 min. Very light run with stops for pics. And my dad waiting for his ride. More at the gym later.

 

14:17   Christian sends her a pic of soft play.

 

This is soft play. I’m exhausted!! 😊

14:18   Awww, he’s adorable!! Looks like you.
So you’ve had to roll around with him over there? Sounds like great fun! Enjoy.
And don’t forget that Berocca!
In case we want to kiss next Sunday…
Just teasing you. Get well soon – for your own sake.

Thanks. 😊 Pretty early night tonight. How’s your day? Just having lunch.
I have to show you a picture of me as a baby. You will laugh. I was so fat.☺️

18.01  Looking forward to seeing that! 😊

I can see a bit of your neck tattoo in your profile pic. 😊

Oh really? Would you like a photo of the other one now?

Let’s see if you’re as smart as I think.

Amazingly, I’m going to bed early as well. House is dark, everybody’s sleeping. Since I can’t have a recording of your voice, I’ll just have to read a book instead.

21:23   Tattoo later. All good things come to those who wait. 😊

I will send you a recording. When I do, it will be a surprise. Have a nice early night! Sleep well. I had some very strange dreams about sailing last night. Should keep a diary of my dreams. I’m fascinated by this subject.

I’ve had a few about a talking cat. Love those ones.

Dying to listen to the recording. Tell me more about your interest in dreams.
The talking cat reminds me of a Disney movie I used to watch as a 10-year-old. The Richest Cat in The World. Ever seen it?

Do you like old movies? I do. Tell me some of your favorites!

Oh wow. Difficult. Old black and white comedies. Innocent films. Classics.
I love old movies, too! I’m not sure I’ve seen that one.

Parent Trap
Annie
Rear Window
Singing in the Rain
The Sound of Music
Fiddler on the Roof
Dangerous When Wet

(This last one is a classic, too!)

Seen all those. Apart from last one.

21:41   I adore Seven Brides for Seven Brothers. Could we watch one? Or will you be too distracted watching me instead?

Good night handsome! Maybe I’ll dream with your firing up voice. 😊

Night night beautiful. 😊

21:51   Did I pass the tattoo test?

21:52   Yeah. With top grades. Well done!

Phew. 😊

You bring me an apple and I might show it to you. We shall see.

Deal. Night night.

© 2017 rf

 

Obs. All names have been changed, and chat messages were published with the match’s kind permission.

 

 

Obs. Day 55 of I wonder if I’ll like him in person, too…

 

 

Chapter 47 – Extemporaneous Tinder Date #10

 

Friday, 12 February 2016.

 

Day 54

 

Diary of Mine,

 

Today has been a good day. 🙂

Just coming home from our Youth Group (my way to contribute).

I started these youth evenings twice a month a year ago, as a way for Kristiina and Joey and other young people to make new friends and have some Friday fun in a safe environment. We play board games, talk, have a snack, play hide-and-seek in the dark and anything else we can come up with.

 

It’s not easy to be leading the youth group at the moment (separation and all), but I told the pastor I’ll give it a try. The young people appreciate it so much and my teens have made some nice friends. And they seem to have no one else yet who could do it instead…

Last time, I had to tell the group about my separation, as they know Mr. Pedro (he used to help me with these gatherings sometimes). So I spoke about forgiveness and determination and the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.

Kate, one of the oldest teenagers there, was very touched. She came to hug me and say, “Anna, you are always so inspiring. Thank you very much for your words.”

I think she is inspiring. What a great person and talented artist Kate is. Some people just know how to shine their light. 😊

 

This time father was our special guest. He held a short devotional – and tried to turn us into an instantaneous choir (dad is so cool)! We weren’t that successful with the singing, but ended up having great laughs.

Tonight’s theme was seeing the good in others and letting them know it. I repeated a “building up your self-confidence” dynamic I sometimes have with my pupils at school. Will tell you more later.

 

Today has been a very good day – yeah.

Sunny. I looked cute – better yet, I felt it! And we all know how fantastic that is for a woman. 😁

 

As for random updates:

Remember Frederick, Tinder Englishman #1? I think we’re becoming friends. We chat on Messenger and have started ringing each other sometimes, too. Nice guy. Wise. He‘s a good listener and sharer. He tells me his thoughts and general feelings concerning his recent separation – still feeling pretty angry at his ex – childcare, immediate goals and such.

His voice is manly and pleasant, but we haven’t flirted at all. Not even once. He lives in Reading – England, and since neither of us is planning on meeting in person any time soon, virtual friendship is the option.

I think what we have feels like some needed encouragement – comparable with divorce therapy groups? Appreciated and retributed.

 

With Christian, Tinder Englishman #2, it’s been intriguing to say the least – very curious to meet him soon. Chatting daily from Good Morning to Good Night…

I love that!

It inpires the artist in me. Triggers good feelings with dopamine.

 

This is a new life phase and I won’t complain about the attention I’m receiving from some interesting men. Won’t complain too much! 😊 Sooner or later I’ll find him. I just know it. ❤️ ‍No hurry.

I do have some dates set up for this Sunday to Friday. 😅 Guys who seem eager to meet up…

…I booked them in a long time ago – one at a time – for this coming week, since the teens will be going back to their dad’s place. My only chance!

This is my project at the moment. When I decide something, I go for it. Obstinate me!

 

However… today I broke one of my own rules. Had a shorter day at school and went on a coffee date straight from work. Number 10.

Yes, I know I wasn’t going to meet anyone when the teens are home with me, but this guy insisted the whole week!

I caved in.

So busy, sorry! 🙁

Kids at my place this week, other dates next week… But all right.

If you’ll come to IKEA in a couple of hours – it’s on my way home – I can meet you for a coffee straight from work. Would that be OK?  🙂

How it went?

Oh, extemporaneously…

Cute foreigner. Muslim. Pianist – very artistic, very cultural. We had a long chat and he smiled a lot, looking appreciatively into my eyes.

But, was Tom right about perfume…! 😷 😟

Seriously, Soner’s perfume was sooooo strong, and to his misfortune, I really, really disliked the scent. Made it very hard to relax and concentrate on the other aspects of the date.

Soner asked to meet again soon, but I told him I really didn’t feel the chemistry.

Smelled it? 😂

Eurgh. All the best to him!

 

Anyways, today has been a great day.

My workouts have been working. Finally!

I’m back to jogging two-three times a week (usually 3-6km). I think it’s such a perfect workout because it takes 20-30 minutes, but feels great and gives nice results.

Going to the gym, playing volleyball, lots of brisk walks. And on top of that, I just go by bike everywhere I need to. Even well dressed and in high heels. Haha. I haven’t had a public transportation card since I moved back to Helsinki three years ago.

OK, if it’s raining reeaaally hard, I’ll take the tram. Otherwise, steps it is.

 

Healthy foods, good thoughts, support from my parents. Determination.

Life’s to be lived happily now. I’ve just had enough hard times.

 

Aaahhh, best of all, I’ve gotta tell you this –> even my hair has been looking exactly the way I like it. 😁 😁

That’s no small feat, you know. Mom and sis tease me about it all the time. They say I’m never happy with my hairdressers, nor with my hair.

Is it my fault that I’m usually very unlucky with the results??? Mom and sis seem to think I’m fussy about it. Very funny. 😑

The tenure position I fought so much for is something else I’m grateful for. A flat I love, a broken loving heart under repair, quality time with daughter and son.

Joy.

Don’t you just love Fridays, Anna?

© 2017 rf

 

Obs. All names have been changed, and chat messages were published with the match’s kind permission.

 

 

Obs. Day 54 of life comes in waves, good days, bad days. Good years, bad years? It’s all part of the journey. Just enjoy it.