Friday, 12 February 2016.
Day 54
Diary of Mine,
Today has been a good day. 🙂
Just coming home from our Youth Group (my way to contribute).
I started these youth evenings twice a month a year ago, as a way for Kristiina and Joey and other young people to make new friends and have some Friday fun in a safe environment. We play board games, talk, have a snack, play hide-and-seek in the dark and anything else we can come up with.
It’s not easy to be leading the youth group at the moment (separation and all), but I told the pastor I’ll give it a try. The young people appreciate it so much and my teens have made some nice friends. And they seem to have no one else yet who could do it instead…
Last time, I had to tell the group about my separation, as they know Mr. Pedro (he used to help me with these gatherings sometimes). So I spoke about forgiveness and determination and the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.
Kate, one of the oldest teenagers there, was very touched. She came to hug me and say, “Anna, you are always so inspiring. Thank you very much for your words.”
I think she is inspiring. What a great person and talented artist Kate is. Some people just know how to shine their light. 😊
This time father was our special guest. He held a short devotional – and tried to turn us into an instantaneous choir (dad is so cool)! We weren’t that successful with the singing, but ended up having great laughs.
Tonight’s theme was seeing the good in others and letting them know it. I repeated a “building up your self-confidence” dynamic I sometimes have with my pupils at school. Will tell you more later.
Today has been a very good day – yeah.
Sunny. I looked cute – better yet, I felt it! And we all know how fantastic that is for a woman. 😁
As for random updates:
Remember Frederick, Tinder Englishman #1? I think we’re becoming friends. We chat on Messenger and have started ringing each other sometimes, too. Nice guy. Wise. He‘s a good listener and sharer. He tells me his thoughts and general feelings concerning his recent separation – still feeling pretty angry at his ex – childcare, immediate goals and such.
His voice is manly and pleasant, but we haven’t flirted at all. Not even once. He lives in Reading – England, and since neither of us is planning on meeting in person any time soon, virtual friendship is the option.
I think what we have feels like some needed encouragement – comparable with divorce therapy groups? Appreciated and retributed.
With Christian, Tinder Englishman #2, it’s been intriguing to say the least – very curious to meet him soon. Chatting daily from Good Morning to Good Night…
I love that!
It inpires the artist in me. Triggers good feelings with dopamine.
This is a new life phase and I won’t complain about the attention I’m receiving from some interesting men. Won’t complain too much! 😊 Sooner or later I’ll find him. I just know it. ❤️ No hurry.
I do have some dates set up for this Sunday to Friday. 😅 Guys who seem eager to meet up…
…I booked them in a long time ago – one at a time – for this coming week, since the teens will be going back to their dad’s place. My only chance!
This is my project at the moment. When I decide something, I go for it. Obstinate me!
However… today I broke one of my own rules. Had a shorter day at school and went on a coffee date straight from work. Number 10.
Yes, I know I wasn’t going to meet anyone when the teens are home with me, but this guy insisted the whole week!
I caved in.
So busy, sorry! 🙁
Kids at my place this week, other dates next week… But all right.
If you’ll come to IKEA in a couple of hours – it’s on my way home – I can meet you for a coffee straight from work. Would that be OK? 🙂
How it went?
Oh, extemporaneously…
Cute foreigner. Muslim. Pianist – very artistic, very cultural. We had a long chat and he smiled a lot, looking appreciatively into my eyes.
But, was Tom right about perfume…! 😷 😟
Seriously, Soner’s perfume was sooooo strong, and to his misfortune, I really, really disliked the scent. Made it very hard to relax and concentrate on the other aspects of the date.
Soner asked to meet again soon, but I told him I really didn’t feel the chemistry.
Smelled it? 😂
Eurgh. All the best to him!
Anyways, today has been a great day.
My workouts have been working. Finally!
I’m back to jogging two-three times a week (usually 3-6km). I think it’s such a perfect workout because it takes 20-30 minutes, but feels great and gives nice results.
Going to the gym, playing volleyball, lots of brisk walks. And on top of that, I just go by bike everywhere I need to. Even well dressed and in high heels. Haha. I haven’t had a public transportation card since I moved back to Helsinki three years ago.
OK, if it’s raining reeaaally hard, I’ll take the tram. Otherwise, steps it is.
Healthy foods, good thoughts, support from my parents. Determination.
Life’s to be lived happily now. I’ve just had enough hard times.
Aaahhh, best of all, I’ve gotta tell you this –> even my hair has been looking exactly the way I like it. 😁 😁
That’s no small feat, you know. Mom and sis tease me about it all the time. They say I’m never happy with my hairdressers, nor with my hair.
Is it my fault that I’m usually very unlucky with the results??? Mom and sis seem to think I’m fussy about it. Very funny. 😑
The tenure position I fought so much for is something else I’m grateful for. A flat I love, a broken loving heart under repair, quality time with daughter and son.
Joy.
Don’t you just love Fridays, Anna?
© 2017 rf
Obs. All names have been changed, and chat messages were published with the match’s kind permission.
Obs. Day 54 of life comes in waves, good days, bad days. Good years, bad years? It’s all part of the journey. Just enjoy it.
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