Thursday, 11 February 2016.
Day 53
9:47 Good morning! Hope you slept well and completed your project. Don’t forget, I need to check your work. 😊
Struggling to get up today. It’s cold here.
Anna looks forward to receiving Christian’s messages every the morning – the Englishman with the upgraded Hugh Grant’s voice.
Somehow, he always makes her feel good. That is, since they matched on Day 36.
Very good. In comparison to all hundreds of other chatters.
Now that I think of it, I think he’s the person I’ve been chatting with the most, so far. Almost twenty days!
So much for my own rules. Typical!
Christian’s so interactive with his messages. Always comments and always asks. Shows undying interest.
Learn Finns. Learn!!!
Ahhh – I can’t believe we are really going to meet soon.
But will I like him?? What if he turns out to be a weirdo in person??? Another nutjob.
I’ll just have to find out.
In that case, he’ll just be an extra story to tell my friends. I can live with that.
Smelly? Hmm. Too slim? Badly dressed. Annoying? All his teeth missing. I’d better ask for a smile selfie! Yes. That’s what I’ll do.
He says he doesn’t smoke…
1,82m. What does a long-armed embrace feel like, I wonder…?
Is he a good kisser, you think? His lips are awfully thin. Even for a man. But he looks soooo friendly and cute in his South African pic. Dreamy.
11 days.
He’s my exception — she smiles at the thought — and I’m growing really fond of our chats.
10:11 Morning. 😊 Today I waited to hear from you first – but I knew you’d write. I’m not sure if a pic of my work would make any sense. I think you have to see it in person to understand. 😉
Cold there? Brrrr.
The heating system is very good in Finland – not like you suffering over there. My flat was so warm yesterday night that I had to shed more and more of my clothes. When I realized it, I’d been sewing in my underwear for an hour. Haha!
10:12 Hahaha! And that’s why you didn’t take a picture! In case I’d catch you in your undies! 😊 That’s funny.
Still cold here so staying under duvet for a little longer. Now I have a nice mental picture to warm me up. 😊
Yep. Count on me to be unsystematic. Unorthodox, hard-working, out-of-the-box. Clumsy! Yet efficient. 😊
Cute and hot, too. Or so I’ve been told. Haha.
10:13 Send some of that heat over here please, your clumsy-yet-efficientness. Hope you were careful with the needle!! 😊
He’s a darling. At least virtually…!
I’m curious about this guy.
Hmm. We shall see.
Carinhoso – that will be your new nickname! 😊
What does it mean again? I think google didn’t explain it to me well enough.
Happy you get to stay in bed. I wish. Feeling tired here and there’s a long day ahead. Have to find time for a power nap today.
Oh! It means affectionate one (a caring loving person/someone who likes caressing and touching). It makes more sense in Portuguese, as it has a wider meaning.
(I spent some years near the border between Brazil and Uruguay, so I speak both Spanish and Portuguese……. And many other languages! 😊)
You language computer!! 😊😊 For me, only English and German. And a little bit of Spanish. Studied French, but can’t remember it that well.
Not bad! Hats off.
Ah yeah: friends, relatives, workmates and especially lovers can be referred to as carinhoso – if they are, of course. 😊
I have a feeling that you are…
Ops. Gotta go teach some more now.
In case we don’t chat anymore today, have a wonderful day!
10:32 You too! Thanks for the nickname. 😊 I hear the snow is back. Well… a little.
A little later, Anna sends him a picture of the lovely wintry countryside view from her classroom window.
11:38 Looks lovely! Must be very peaceful. Are you under the teacher’s desk taking those coffee power naps you like so much?? 😊
13:47 Oh, had no time for that today. 😦 🙂
So, lots of work there?
Looking forward to the 21st and to enjoying our cool friendship in person…
So nice to be on my way home already. Shorter day today.
14:02 Hey there. On my way to Berlin for a work meeting at the moment. And then the doctor’s.
Looking forward to seeing you very soon. 😊 Glad you have a short day at work.
Cool friendship? I like that. 😊
14.29 Maybe more…… It takes two to tango, right?
Who knows if we’ll like each other in person? 😊
At least this cool friendship.
He asks if he can call. She says yes. The phone rings and the chat is warm and… ahhh, wonderful.
What a nice man.
I wonder if…
And those little butterflies in Anna’s stomach have slowly but surely started to flap their tiny wings. Should she be careful? Protect her heart? Be smart…
Yes.
Eurgh. But I’m dying for some carinho here.
From a guy who earns it first.
14.59 Always so fun to talk to you, sweet guy! Take care. Loving your voice. Maybe you could send a recording for me to listen to before falling asleep every night. 💤🔥 Please?
15:01 Hahaha. You sure?
15:02 Yes. I’ll be happy if you do.
I can’t promise. But I’ll see what I can do.
15:03 I’m being tortured here.
In a good way?
Not so good. But… 🎶 🇺🇾 + 🇬🇧 = 🇫🇮 💓.
😊 What’s that first one? Music?
And in eleven days: 🇩🇪 🛫 🇫🇮 🛬 🍝 🍽️🍷 🍽️.
Haha Love it.
Maybe after that 🏠 🔑 🎬 ☕ 🍓 💏 🎶🔥 ?
Someday 🛫 🇪🇸 🏖️? We shall see…!
OK. Not bad. Wow. I have some ideas.
15:12 Good to have ideas. Send me your own charade charming man?
That made my phone crash!! Must have over-heated.
Overheating is good, right? For a fire guy!
15.14 Absolutely!! Need more fire in my life.
Who doesn’t. 😞😕
15:30 You should be power napping.
I’m in the doctor’s waiting room now. But I’m good with needles. As are you! Tattoos and sewing. Piercings?
Hahaha. Let’s keep some of the mystery.
Anna wakes up feeling extra excited. She’s going out now with her daughter Kristiina to pick up the prom dress and have a chick-chat-snack.
21:20 How’s your evening going?
21:40 I got home a little earlier. Berlin is tiring. I love it, anyways. Lived there for 10 years but won’t live there again. Great to visit.
How are you all doing there?
But for tourism with no hurry, must be lovely, surely?
Good to know oneself. What you want and don’t want. It makes decision-making easier.
We’re fine here. Kris and Joey entertained and happy.
21:44 Because you are entertaining! I bet they love being back with you.
Yes, about knowing ourselves… Comes with age I guess.
Not that I’m old!!!
21:45 Thanks. They like the home I was able to make for them. Home is where the heart is…
You’re not old! Perhaps even a little young for me. 😊
Pedro is two years older than me, but always looked ten years younger than his own age. More fit. Made me feel that maybe I’d earn his love if I lost 10kg. Just maybe!
For the first ten years of marriage, he’d look irritably at Anna whenever she had a small piece of cake at parties. From the first honeymoon breakfast onwards.
Eurgh. Now I want someone as different as possible. In every way. And I don’t really trust Brazilian Don Juans right now. They may be exciting, but… Always gaping at any moving lady targets.
Talking about knowing yourself, I was reading a newsletter article about ‘Dating Again’, and it kind of had three tips.
21:48 Beware the Englishman?? 😊 Half-English. 😊
(1) Not loving yourself… (the need to forget the past, blah blah)
Actually, it was about the three mistakes people make when going back to the dating world.
What’s the second? And third.
Hahaha! I may not want to beware of him 😊. But, let’s see if he’ll deserve me.
Just teasing you.
I’m actually counting the days to meet this potentially wonderful man.
Numbers 2 and 3 you can read for yourself – it drew my attention because of all the (respectable) Tinder dates I’ve been having.
21:52 I agree. Very true.
Yeah… Good advice.
Just wanted to let you know that at least online you seem to have many very agreeable traits that I like. I’m already grateful to be exploring this. So thank you from my heart! 😊
And Happy Valentine’s Day – which in Finland is called Friend’s Day!
Hyvää ystävän päivää.
21:57 That’s very kind. And thank you! Happy Friends’ Day to you too! 😊 X
It is going to be my first Valentine as a single woman – since the age of 17.
I’m going out with my son and I’m sure it’s going to be fun!
What are your plans?
22:00 Wow. Did you usually celebrate? I normally do. Had a girlfriend once who said she couldn’t be bothered but I always made an effort as I didn’t believe her. Thought it was a test. It wasn’t until years later I realized she really meant it!
No plans.
My ex wasn’t romantic.
90% of the dates we ever had in the last 15 years or so I had to plan and execute myself. That’s how it felt and how I remember it, any way.
Very unmotivating.
I love love.
22:03 I love any reason to hug, kiss, fire up, express appreciation, chat, look eye in the eye, laugh and just be very, very happy.
What about you?
I love sex too.
Which I think was clear front the fire up. 😊
Did you use to make the effort just for her or do you enjoy those things as well?
22:17 I think it’s fun and just a nice thing to do. Probably different for a guy. We have different emotions. But I like your description of romantic. 😊
22.19 👍
Didn’t make an effort because it was expected. I enjoy those things too.
All of them.
Perfect. 😊
© 2017 rf
Obs. All names have been changed, and chat messages were published with the match’s kind permission.
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