Chapter 10 – Optimizing Tinder

This blog is a book. Maybe better read from the beginning? 🙂


Saturday, 16 January 2016.


Day 27


Dear Diary,

How’s your heart?

Mine is OK. I can’t deny there are some upsides to being divorced… 😀

I think the teens are doing well, too. I meet them, I call them, they call me. I miss them…

So far so good.


The news is that after spending over a week chatting avidly back and forth with Tino to never even meet him – annoying – I am on Google for some tips on how to use Tinder in an optimal way. ☺️

I’m quickly scanning them through… Let’s see…

How to create a good profile, OK; what kind of pictures to post (all recent; close-up of face looking into the camera, smiling; full body; with one’s friends or job/hobbies, as long as it’s something one is passionate about). Reasonable!

Your profile text should be positive and you shouldn’t just mention things you like doing but actually never do. Instead, you’d better start doing some of those things first – seize the day, seize your life! Sound advice. 👍

Oh, here we go:

Don’t spend days or weeks chatting with anyone before meeting up in person. As enjoyable as that may feel, you might not get around to ever meeting them.

Tell me about it!

It’s better to chat two-three times to get a good first impression and then suggest a date. That’s how you eliminate people who are just there for their own online thrill and wasting your time.

Another good tip seems to be meeting up for a cup of coffee. That way you will have an elegant out if you don’t like them in person. You can stay for twenty minutes, have a chat, thank them and leave.


OK, I’ll give it a try! Let’s see how it goes this time.

I have been chatting with different guys, nothing too mind-blowing 😀, but nice enough. It’s fun! A whole new world.

I’ll keep you posted. 😉

Plo-plim! Hey, Tinder notification! — a frequent sound now.

P.S. I’ve just been invited for a coffee date tomorrow morning – nice!

And I accepted it. 🙂😀

© 2017 rf



Obs. Day 27 since moving out. What now?




Author: TinderellaAnna

Anna is a character. Half-fictional, half-inspired in many, many true events. Half-European, half-Latin-American. She is happy, she is strong, she is a mom, a teacher, a friend. Despite the divorce - not of her choice - she is determined to be joyful, grateful, hopeful, sweet; believing that life is for sharing and that he is somewhere out there. But he will have to be as lovable as she is. After all, better alone than in bad company. Sigh: but better in good company than alone... Disclaimer: All names and places have been changed to protect the people who happen to be true.

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