Saturday, 9 January 2016.
Day 20
Dear Diary,
I’ve got so much to tell you!!
How I swipe on Tinder was my last diary entry…
Yeah, yeah, I’m quite artistic and a bit impulsive, too, sometimes. But, as exciting as Tinder is… I ponder over everything.
So, before I tell you about this guy I matched with, let me tell you how I try to chat:
👉 Answer every message. Good manners are all about being considerate of other people’s feelings. That’s how I expect to be treated myself, after all. If someone is disrespectful – which is rare, so far – OK, in that case I’ll definitely unmatch immediately!
👉 If I realize the chat is either too slow or too boring for my taste – yawn, can’t take that – or then that the guy and I seem to have nothing in common, I go “Hey, nice meeting you here and good luck with your search,” unmatching them a little later.
👉 Never share things that are too personal. You never know who is behind the profile. There seem to be some dodgy ones there, too. Hmm. A couple of my pupils said they have fake profiles on Tinder. Can you believe it? Gosh! I just hope I never chat with one of them!!
👉 Seek to be warm, open-minded, curious, friendly, proactive, truthful, and a teeny bit mysterious. Playful? Show your best self. Slowly. What if he is Mr. Boyfriend? And why waste time being half-hearted and lazy, anyway? Either do it right or just don’t do it!
👉 Chat just in English – feels like too much hard work to do it in Finnish.
👉 Take the initiative when you feel like it – when the guys are quiet.
👉 One date at a time… Haha. When you’ve already scheduled a date with somebody, tell all other guys who ask you out: “Let’s wait and see how the other date goes first. I’ll let you know, OK?” (But I haven’t been on any yet).
There have been soooo many matches and pleasant chats this first week… 😄
But none as warm as Tino’s… Sigh! 😍
We matched on the 6th this month and we have a date coming up!
Gotta go! More later. 🤞
© 2017 rf
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